Update 2016.04.23: I wound up with a 2016 Santa Fe AWD SE with Premium package. I am happy with the price. I am happy with the vehicle. Doesn’t drive badly at all. Has nearly all the features I want (save driver seat position memory and fancy headlights). I almost had to get a 2017 as they came in freaking February and it wasn’t even a mid-cycle refresh year. A few months from now there will be an updated CX-9 that would otherwise be the perfect car (I assume) but I can’t wait and it will be a lot more money.
I’ve managed to be in a position to accelerate my life from bachelorhood to double parenthood in the space of a few months. With two kids and a wife adverse to driving 2 vehicles, I am suddenly in the market for a crossover utility vehicle with a 3rd row as the wife is allergic to minivans. Like with the last car I bought, I don’t think I will get nearly everything I want. I only hope it turns out that I am as happy with this CUV as I am with my econobox.
2016 Honda Pilot EX-L

MSRP $39,335 – ~41,000 purchased
Expected 5 year depreciation 2015 = $20,795
18/26/21
194.5 x 78.6
+Leather
+Heated Seats
+One touch second row
+Roof rails (as options)
+Remote starter (as option)
+Seats fold flatter
+Power lift gate
+Fog lights
+Room
+Seating
+Rear seat sunshades
-Radio has no buttons
-Safety Features
-Price
2015 Hyundai Santa Fe GLS Premium Package

MSRP $36,600
Expected 5 year depreciation 2015 = $20,835
18/24/20
193.1 x 74.2
+Value
+Leather
+Rear window shades
+Heated seats
+Roof rails
+Power liftgate
+Fog lights
+Remote starter (option)
+Electronic safety features
+Warranty
-light steering wheel
-light steering effort
-Medium space behind 3rd row
-Middle row doesn’t fold flat
-Middle row difficult to work
2015 Mazda5 Grand Touring

MSRP $25,990
21/28
180.5 x 68.9
+Price
-Size
-Too low
-Terrible 3rd row
-No room behind 3rd row
2015 Toyota Highlander XLE
MSRP $39,680
Expected 5 year depreciation 2015 = $19,056
18/24
191.1 x 75.8
+Lower depreciation
+Leather
+Power liftgate
+Navi
+Power outlet
+2nd row sunshade
-It is a Toyota
-Safety features not present
Not considered for price: Ford Explorer, Dodge Durango. Not considered for wife’s dislike of Nissan: Rogue and Pathfinder. Age of platform and small size: Mazda CX-9. 3rd row as an afterthought: Kia Sorento.